Abandonment and Growing Flowers on Dark Islands
by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming Worldly I was afraid. Of rejection, of being alone, of looking easy to say no to, part of an odd crew that doesn’t fit and crumbles easily. Of...
View ArticleThe Tommy Trauma Trap and Survivor Wars
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace As always images by Cindy Kunsman of Under Much Grace used with permission A few weeks ago, Dwayne Walker graciously allowed me to post his...
View ArticleNeverland
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts I remember well one of the first adult Sunday school classes I took at our former church. It was being touted as a fantastic opportunity to take a...
View ArticleReasons Why People Resist Recovery From Trauma
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace All images by Cindy Kunsman at Under Much Grace and used with permission In a nutshell, there are a few primary reasons why a person might...
View ArticleDeciding to Get Help After Trauma
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace All images by Cindy Kunsman of Under Much Grace and used with permission At some point, for most people, the stress of their trauma alters...
View ArticleVulnerability and Safety in Stage One Recovery
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace All images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission One might think that the first stage of healing from trauma...
View ArticleDesire for and Illusions of Safety in Recovery
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace All images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace used with permission. The previous post listed many factors that increase our...
View ArticleRecognizing Pervasive, Poisonous Power in Marriage
by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch The Shepherd “There are two kinds of power. One kills the spirit. The other nourishes the spirit. The first is Power Over. The other is Personal...
View ArticleOn Being A Woman
by Mari cross posted from her blog Mari’s Muses Images from Mari’s Muses. I’ve been reading this book the past few days: On the very first page, it said this: Truer words have never been spoken. One of...
View Article10 Red Flags About Christian Celebrities and Ministries
Taken from the comments and written by one of NLQ’s commenters Abigail Smith on Samantha Field’s The Smell Test: 5 Signs of a Toxic Church I formulated these “10 Red Flags” about “Christian”...
View ArticleDaffodils Grieved in Recovery
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace All images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission After the first stage of recovery where we find safety and...
View ArticleDaffodils of Integration: First Promise of Joy Through Recovery
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace James Taylor’s melancholy Fire and Rain which laments the unexpected loss of a friend, and I now think of the loss of integration of trauma...
View ArticleDaffodil Season Ends but Recovery Continues
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace All images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission. More than a month ago, I learned about some cruel gossip that’s...
View ArticleMy Healing Continues
by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living Liminal In recent years, I’ve become accustomed to certain people pretending that I don’t exist. If I won’t shut up and go away or roll over and play...
View ArticleFor New-Found Victims
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts Editor’s note: Ellen is speaking directly to new readers at her blog, but the same words apply here as well. Welcome to new readers here who’ve...
View ArticleBack to Stage One Healing: More on Safety and Stabilization
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog from Under Much Grace All images by Cindy Kunsman and from Under Much Grace used with permission. Article 3 pages total. It’s been quite a month, and life is...
View ArticleSafety, Ambiguity, Expectation and Balance
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace This is part of a series Cindy Kunsman has been writing on recovery from spiritual abuse and trauma. All images by Cindy Kunsman of Under...
View Article‘Bloom Where You’re Planted’ as a Thought Stopping Cliche
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace All images by Cindy Kunsman at Under Much Grace and used with permission. Article is 4 pages long. I’d heard that phrase before, but even...
View ArticleFinding Safety in Myths? Camus as Futility’s Starting Point
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace All images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission I am by far a greater fan of Master of the Absurd, Franz Kafka,...
View ArticleDoes the Church Know What Love Really Is?
by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living Liminal “If You are struggling with any area of [this] information it is your problem, not ours. If you feel a breakdown in trust and relationship it...
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